Reality Check – What it really takes to work for yourself

Be Your Own BossDo you often wonder what it really takes to work for yourself and being successful?

There are many aspects to consider before making a decision to go into affiliate marketing or starting your own business, many of which are obvious to some of you reading so will just touch briefly on those and then elaborate on the not so obvious factors that affect us while being self employed.

I have done a lot of research over the years in this regard but in this article I wanted to share my own unique perspective of the challenges endured since starting to work online back in 2009.


Common & Basic Responsibilities:

  • Make sure what you doing is 100% legal. You are responsible for taxes and any other necessary logistics.


  • Fully understanding written agreements, contracts, terms & conditions and obligations you are currently engaged in, especially ones where you had to apply your signature and in this day and age recorded verbal agreements! Keep copies of these at all times if possible.


  • Managing time is very important when you are self employed because you have to account for unexpected events and the fact that you will be dealing with all kinds of problems while running your business.


  • Dealing with failure will become second nature if you can accept this as part of your journey. The larger majority of successful entrepreneurs endure the process of failing and learn to bounce back on their feet to carry on running the gauntlet. “Never give up!” is the motto.


  • Communication skills are vital to maintain a stable network of groups or individuals that help or contribute to sustaining your business. Improving your interpersonal skills must be a consistent effort. English is considered to be a “business language” so it is a very good idea to move in this direction. If it’s encouraging at all to some of you, English is actually my second language and Polish is my first. I have learned to speak, read and write in English circumstantially but over time have realized how vital this has become to developing partnerships and conducting my business ventures thanks to learning this wonderful language.


  • Innovation can be a tricky one, keeping in mind there is nothing new under the sun but there are constant changes (some natural, some imposed) that create unique needs in society, the idea is to understand how a certain market is driven and then take advantage accordingly, most importantly respectfully and ethically.


  • You have to hold yourself accountable for your own mistakes. That means you need to become good at identifying them then learn how to correct them.


  • Finally one of the most challenging for some can be self-motivation! You either need a mentor, some form of support group or know how to stay motivated on your own. Ultimately your goals, dreams and vision should be motivating enough to get through the “tough times” if that’s how you would look at it.


Reading motivation books and going to seminars is great and can be helpful to absorb that positive vibe or energy but you also need to learn how to develop and maintain a positive mindset while working towards your goals when you are alone.


Online side distractions.

I’m not even going to mention all the inappropriate content and subconscious leads that we are exposed to daily while browsing or using the internet for work but if you are prone to being easily distracted then it can become problematic.

You can read many articles about how social media has negatively impacted work performance and how overall people are spending more time entertaining themselves at work instead of being productive and doing what they get paid to do. Are you guilty? Because I’d be lying if I said no 🙂

Self discipline is as important as self motivation and they go hand in hand because if you truly focused and EXCITED about getting your work done then nothing should distract you.

Turn off pop ups, adverts, updates, alerts, social media, shopping etc. unless they work related or necessary for your software to function properly.

Video Games

Turn off the games for a while, they eat up your time like crazy! They are so addictive, convenient to play anywhere and really amazing these days, I know because I have played many games and understand how time consuming they can be! Not to mention the psychological implications. If you wondering about your ‘toon’ (game character) instead of work, you might have a problem.

Instead of farming digital gold, start earning REAL money okay? 😉


There has to be a balance between research and getting things done.

It is important to constantly educate yourself and stay up to date when it comes to running your own business. There are many people who like to spend too much time perfecting things and this can hinder your productivity or achieving results and goals.

I’m not advising anyone to go “gun hoe” but the best way to experience if something works is just doing it. The reason for instant success stories, with the exception to scams and paid actors, is because people just tried what they perceived would work and it did.

If you have an idea and think it can work, do it. I basically challenged myself to write this article without doing any research or using the net (only to publish it) based on things I deal with day to day.

It is possible to start something small, with very little cost or effort involved. If it fails move on and learn what you did wrong, what improvements could be made. If it works, scale it, simple. Grow and develop what works and move away from things that don’t.

These days you don’t need to become a guru salesman, learn how to sell ice to an Eskimo or reinvent the wheel! There are so many successful examples available all you have to do is follow one, if you can’t be original that is. At the same time keep in mind that just because it works for someone else, it might not work for you. This is not a contradiction but rather learning that there is a fine balance.

Get involved with something you have a passion for! Doing what you love will pay off sooner or later because people will notice what you doing if you share it. Remember the difference between pushing and sharing.


Choose what you love but treasure what you have.

Meaning appreciate what you currently have while working towards the things that you want.

Let go of unrealistic expectations like instant gratification and don’t set goals that are too high to reach.

This is what I love doing and building from Lego, MOC’s (My own creation) and wish there was more time to do it so working towards this.

Lego MOC Computer Desk

The beauty of networking with friends.

A friend of mine has a talent for building things out of wood and pretty much… anything! ^^,

They come in all colors of the collectible Lego Minifigures.

Custom Lego Minifigure Shelf

Unfortunately these are all sold out and my friend doesn’t have time to make more but the memory lives on in many people’s homes and some children’s bedrooms.

Don’t be afraid to ask your family and friends for help or to contribute, you might be surprised what talents lie among people who are shy or humble.

What about the Wife / Husband and the Children?

Working from home is a privilege I would trade for nothing else, having the flexibility of doing things at my own pace and spending extra time with my wife and son is a true blessing. At the same time it can be a challenge to work over the background noise and again it comes down to creating a balance that works for everyone involved.

Some people prefer to work at a location away from home like an office park or their own building. Some people buy or rent another house and work from there.

Perhaps you live alone and don’t have to deal with distractions such as loud environments or family emergencies but you experience other kinds of difficulties?…

I would love to hear about it in the comment section, who knows, you might even find a solution to your problem on this blog or down below 🙂

Best regards,


My Wife & Son


  1. Amir

    Dear Kamil
    Your post about working for yourself is very nice. it comes for me very peaceful, I don’t know why but when I read it I feel the very positive energy from it. I am a person who likes to work home and I’m doing this right know. I prefer to be with my wife and work in peace, my wife provides this place for me to work and I enjoy my work.
    another aspect that is important for me is to work for myself and I’m my own boss.
    Thank you for your helpful post.


    1. Kamil (Post author)

      Dear Amir

      Thank you for the kind words and comment, it’s much appreciated when someone finds the content helpful.
      I can relate well wanting to be at home with my family while able to provide for them and protect them if necessary.
      The online world has now made this possible for anyone who is determined 🙂

      Best regards,

  2. Gus

    Dear Kamil

    I agree about your comments regarding online distractions. Its true because while I am working I get distracted by alerts from social media and the like. I appreciate the comment about being self disciplined. It goes a long way in ensuring you complete what ever task you are working on.

    Thanks for the helpful information.

    Best Regards,


    1. Kamil (Post author)

      Hi Gus

      Thank you kindly and glad you found this helpful 🙂

      I struggle with this myself at times but over the years have become more disciplined to avoid these distractions.


  3. Minhaj Ahmed

    Hi Kamil

    Insightful article, especially the parts about getting distracted easily. That happens to me all the time. Especially when I am struggling to find something to write I find myself just aimlessly clicking through link after link and suddenly realise that I have just wasted a couple of hours and done nothing.
    It’s why I have set myself-realistic targets If I can get a couple of things done for my websites, whether it’s writing content, promoting or updating older content, then I feel I have done something positive.

    All the best


    1. Kamil (Post author)

      Hi Minhaj

      Thank you for sharing and confirming this, sometimes I think its only me who falls down the hyperlink spiral…
      Think the games are the worse especially for the younger generations.

      We all need to keep focused! 🙂

      Best regards,

  4. Norman Richards

    Hello and thanks for sharing, your post is very detailed and encouraging because, in this line of work, one must learn to motivate himself or herself in order to succeed. Your post will be and encouragement to so many whose desire is to also have online success.

    1. Kamil (Post author)

      Hi Norman

      Yes, self motivation is a constant challenge and takes quite a bit of focus. That is why I always urge people to work with something they love and have a passion for.
      Thank you for your comment, I hope it will encourage others as well 🙂

      Best regards,


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